if you don't have anything nice to say

then don't say anything. it's hot up here in our room. i tried to eliminate the word "don't" from my vocabulary and it is very difficult. see i used it twice in the first sentence. it's very weird to be so focused on what i am saying, especially to a child who isn't talking back. however, he is on his way. he is 'saying' letters and numbers now and will pick up any song. we played in our band tonight and went on a very hot walk.